I’ve been following some of you so long I’m so attached to you I don’t even care what you post anymore I just enjoy your presence and personality thanks for being so rad even though I don’t talk to a lot of you yeah his post just got 10 times creepier ok bye
One thing that bothers me about my local Queer community:
Whenever I’m introduced to people I’m like, “Oh yeah, and these are my pronouns!” and people are always, “Sure! Yeah! Why not?”
And then promptly never use them.
Want to know who does use my preferred pronouns?
Like, 10-15 people on Tumblr.
Ya’ll are my favourite people, tbh.
A non-scummy cis person on “Die Cis Scum.”
Why yes, seeing “die cis scum” makes me uncomfortable.
That’s the point.
Do I feel a small sting like I’ve been targeted? Yes. Do I feel a neurotic urge to point out that I’m not scummy? Hell yes. Do I feel like maybe that’s a little unfair? Eh, I did at first.
The thing is, it’s not up to me to decide whether or not “Die Cis Scum” is okay.
Whenever I feel like I’m “targeted” by that I have to remind myself of all of the people who have legitimately been targeted, spat on, killed, talked about, pushed around, outed without permission and have feared leaving their house every day for the way they are.
Whenever I feel the neurotic urge to point out that I am an ally I instead do what I’m supposed to do, which is actually be a good ally and not just spend all my time talking about what a good ally I am.
Here’s the thing: you’re going to find differing opinions on “Die Cis Scum,” even among trans people. My personal reasons for feeling uncomfortable about it is that I don’t like violence. But really, I feel like the only thing I have the right to say is that I’m uncomfortable.
I can’t say if it’s right or wrong because it doesn’t affect me.
It’s okay to have mixed feelings about it but it is not okay to get on a soapbox and talk about how “wrong” it is without anything more than “as a cis person this makes me feel bad because I’m not transphobic.”
It’s important as allies to remember that just because we are kind and accommodating (something that, I’m sorry, is an expectation), and even if we go out of our way to stand up to others, we cannot expect a trans person to immediately forgive all cis people for their words and actions. Being a good ally means just being a good person for the sake of someone else, not yourself.
If I could just bold all of this, and still have people read it I would.
Doing it right.
- cis and you get mad/offended when trans* people rage against cisness
- white and get mad/offended when PoC rage against whiteness
- abled and get mad/offended when disabled people rage against abled people and ableism
- straight and get mad/offended when queers rage against straightness and heteronormativity
- male and get mad/offended when non-men rage aginst the patriarchy
- privileged on ANY OTHER AXIS and get mad/offended when oppressed people rage against the privileged group you belong to
guess what? you’re being oppressive.
if THAT angers/offends you, please unfollow me now, i don’t want your bullshit.