i have never felt so much second hand embarrassment than i have right now
So is this going to be swept under the rug by the white people who seem to adore her that follow me or?
im not even a shawol but theres a gifset of kim jonghyun draped over a bandmate’s lap and he’s about to kiss a puppy and the puppy comes closer but he engULFS ITS ENTIRE FACE INTO HIS /MOUTH/ IM SO BEWILDERED WHAT IS HE ON
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Sending love to trans* women today, especially those for whom women’s day is not safe space. You matter and you’re welcome here.
11:52
Just as a heads up to everyone who is still expecting packages from me for the holiday season:
Ya’ll.
Ya’ll.
I appreciate your patience with me, and your packages are on their way (soon!) but every time I get enough money to start sending things out something happens and suddenly I’m broke again.
So basically these “Holiday Gifts” have now become care packages for the following year and will include a card for every major holiday I can think of, plus your originally planned gift.
I hope you all like cards.
<3
No guys, I need to stop and talk about something in this movie and how fucking revolutionary it was; something that I haven’t seen in a movie before or since.
This is a movie about a kid who leaves her birth family.
Not a kid who find that they have a secret lineage or something that allows them to find their ‘true family’ - this is a movie about a kid whose true birth family is made up of bad people. So she gets out. And that is played as the right thing to do. She isn’t punished for it or made to feel bad about ‘abandoning her family’. There isn’t an underlying ‘but they’re your family and you have to love them’ or ‘they’re your family and they love you even if they don’t show it well or do hurtful things’ message of the kind that I see OVER AND OVER AND OVER AND OVER in media. Matilda gets out and lives happily ever after because of it.
We need a million more movies like this to counter the metric shit ton of movies that directly counter this message.
Underaged tattoos done in basements: summarized.
QUEERBAITING, A USER’S GUIDE.
What queerbaiting is:
- When the creator knowingly and intentionally has two or more otherwise heterosexual characters engage in actions that are classically coded as non-heterosexual with the purpose of courting slash fandom’s interest, while simultaneously having no interest whatsoever in writing any of said characters as non-heterosexual.
What queerbaiting is not:
- When your otp won’t get together in canon.
Things that I know:
- It’s hard for fandom to take their slash goggles off sometimes.
- That’s okay, actually, there’s nothing wrong with that.
- You can ship whoever you want, whenever you want, don’t let anyone ever tell you otherwise.
- It can be hard to tell if a creator is queerbaiting even when you don’t have slash goggles permanently welded to your face.
However
- Queerbaiting is a valuable term.
- I for one will be very sad if it goes the way of the spoon metaphor, where a helpful phrase used by the disabled was co-opted by a bunch of people (including myself at one point) who wanted a cool way to say they didn’t feel like doing X, instead of— like in the metaphor’s original use— they were physically unable to do so due to their invisible disability.
So
- Next time you say queerbaiting, just try to… think about… it?
- Like, has the spectre of actual homosexuality and / or bisexuality ever come up in text, only to be refused, smacked down, or ignored?
- I’m not talking like #EYEFUCKING or whatever.
- I’m specifically referring to instances where it’s blatantly brought, either in text or by the media.
In summary
- It can honestly be hard to tell for sure sometimes, especially when you know Adam and Steve’s love is so true and pure. All I’m asking is for you to take a few seconds and take a deep breath before yelling QUEERBAITING.
- If you’re not sure, it might be safer to just say ‘this would be a good opportunity for the creator to write canon gay characters, and isn’t it a shame that they aren’t?’
- Because what queerbaiting means is that the creator is aware of this and is intentionally not doing that, because they don’t actually care about the representation cookies, they’re just banking on your slash goggles.
